IMPORTANCE OF BEING FLEXIBLE

All of us have many demands in our life,we have loads of expectations from others,from the almighty,we face loads of problems in coping up with the circumstantial problems that are a part of our daily routine,,,,then whats the solution to these problems???how do we learn to be happy with what we have??many of us have No answer to this question due to which people end up being stressed,depressed,unhappy,sad,,,,all these are not mere adjectives but are the culprits behind our failure,,,,many a times we do not realize that our actual happiness lies in we accepting the things the way they are,,,YES compromise is essential,,,compromise is the way of living..we have become so mad in achieving what we want that we do not  even look at the gist of the things we are loosing..yes its very true that everyone thinks that what he believes is always correct but that's not the case most of the times..actually at this point of time we should be mature enough accept things,the way they come..we should posses the understanding to look at the things in all its accepts,,we should be capable enough to weigh the things,,WE SHOULD BE FLEXIBLE,,we must all look at the things,,at least give a thought to the things in a different manner instead of being stubborn and arrogant,,we should all be extrovert,place our point of view to others but at the same time have the courtesy to listen to their point of view as well..whatever happens,happens for something good,we should know that if things do not turn out the way we plan whatever is happening will definitely have better consequences but for that we should have the patience to wait for the consequences to be better,,we should be happy from within because that's what matters the most..

WHAT IS INDEPENDENCE???

Today on the occassion of independence day when we are celebrating the 63rd year of our independence i would like to ask all you people what is independence??do we actually know the meaning of independence?is it roaming around without hearing tantrums of parents??is it looting people,fooling people??are we actually independent,,yes we are..provided we inculcate freedom in our minds..in simple terms independence is freedom in our minds,it is loss of fear from minds,,we have accumulated unnecesssary fear in our minds,and this is very obvious looking at the increasing terror,the inhuman,merciless behaviour of the people,,BUT BEING SCARED FROM THEM IS NOT THE SOLUTION,,we should fight for ourselves instead of being scared,,we are free so instead of taking an undue advantage of it we should come forward and be brave,,its damn easy to blame the authorities but unless we do do not our roles nothing will change,,we all know that with freedom comes responsibility and that's not applicable with only the authorities it implies to all of us,,there is no sense in fighting in the name of caste,religion we all are humans,,lets treat all equally and march towards the path of progress....JAI HIND

THE ROOT CAUSE OF FRUSTRATIONS

Today in the 21st century all of us are subjected to certain deadlines,to certain expectations,to certain norms which can not at all be avoided.All of us crave for success ,power and should crave for RESPECT at the same time.YES achieving all this is not so very easy,we all have to go through many hurdles,hear the tantrums of the authorities above us,listen to SHIT even after spending sleepless nights for getting that work done and consequently we become frustrated.
But is being frustrated the solution to our problems.My question is why do we let others influence us so much?,why do WE let others have an impact on us that we get frustrated?,instead of working on the problem and spending time constructively we people become frustrated which will definitely prove to be disastrous for us...actually its all upon US.its our attitude towards things which makes us happy or frustrated,,if we consider hurdles as stepping stones to success and use the tantrums of others for making ourselves tolerant and flexible to everything things will definitely look much more beautiful,,i know saying"ALL IZZ WELL" is easy and implementing the same is equally difficult but my dear friends its much better to face this difficulty rather than facing the huge difficulty of our stress and frustration.Today the number of people committing suicide have increased,,people are facing the problems of hypertension,depression,,why are people so fed up from their lives??why are we not willing TO LIVE?just ask yourself,look around yourself,analyze things,WAKE UP and then you will realize life is very beautiful,,remember there is no concept of negativity,its something which is created in our minds ,we can only vanish it,destroy it.And its high time we believe in the grace of almighty cause whatever happens is his will,he is there to take care of us,to nurture us..we all are HIS PUPPETS who can put in our best efforts and wait for our destiny to unfold cause nothing absolutely nothing is in our hands...

Many a times we people come across situations and need to face circumstances which are unpleasant,irritating,annoying and disturbing.There are people around us with whom we do not gel properly,whose views and opinions do not match with that of ours and we just feel like getting out of the mess.But getting away from the mess is practically impossible.In such situations we feel damn confused and worried.We start blaming certain factors,give lame reasons for not liking things and end up being completely bored,grumpy,and UPSET.But this IS LIFE.Life is not a fairytale,it is full of hurdles,it teaches us something in every stage of our difficulty.Every problem has its solution and there is a lesson hidden in the process of finding the solution to the problem,and a bundle of all these lessons is known as experience.One must always remember that whatever is gonna happen is bound to occur,no one can escape from facing difficulties so there is no use of being upset.One must always give an optimistic approach to things and try to learn something from each and every thing.By this i do not mean that one should change instead he should increase his tolerance,his patience and above all his belief in himself,,,,yes always the things do not turn out the way you plan but being upset and tensed on the reality makes no sense..cos if a person is deserving his work is recognized even if the rest of the world is not in his favour and that's because of his determination and ceaseless efforts,,so we should all posses the capabilities to be in the crowd yet stand out through our excellence......

EXPECTATIONS HURT

We all have various experiences in our lives.We are subjected through downfalls,rises,happy moments,sad agonies....life has what not to present us??????we go through different stages in our life and each stage has something to teach us..each experience has a lesson which is to be learned by us..but one thing which should be taken care of in every stage of life is that we should not expect anything,,,we start our lives as a chromosome and even before developing people start expecting from us,there are discussions going on for our gender,our complexion,and what not,,obviously when the child is born all those expectations are not fulfilled..basically i want to say that the very beginning of our life is with expectations and when these expectations are not fulfilled people start blaming various factors which according to me is COMPLETELY NUISANCE,,
Now lets get into childhood,as an infant people expect what not from that little infant,,people start asking the parents "why is'nt ur child walking still",some say"he did'nt start talking yet"i mean what the hell is this?he is a little infant,,ok showing concern is good but everything has a limit..
now as the child grows the people want him to top..whatever he studies they want him to excel in that,,i am not saying that one should not study,yes education is essential and should be given prime importance but many a times a lot of potentialities of the child in various other aspects are completely neglected..
This was all about others expectations which can shatter ones dreams but the the most amazing fact is that those expectations that shatter you the most are of your own,,,,,,,,once we are in aposition to take our own desicions we expect a lot from ourselves and our near and dear one's....we want everything the way we would like it to be,,,,,,,but the ONE ABOVE has a completely different plan for us,always when we donot get what we want we become angry or we lose our hope,,and either of them is enough for our failure.We also start expecting from our friends and parents and when they do not give us what we want(ACTUALLY DEMAND)we feel that they do not love us anymore but all of us should realize that they can never be unfair with us they are OUR OWN PEOPLE at times there are certain circumstances and at times the opinions do vary so we should respect their opinions cos they are the people who were there with us when we needed them the most and will alwys be..i would like to conclude by saying
CONCENTRATE ON YOUR KARMA(DEEDS)AND NOT ON THE FRUITS OF YOUR KARMA

A THANKSGIVING TO THE ALMIGHTY

Have we ever wondered what all do we posses??Have we ever thought of our lives without all our possesions??We as teen agers are highly dependent on loads of people and love to be pampered......We have(especially me)wonderful parents(HATS OFF TO THEIR EFFORTS FOR THE SAKE OF OUR COMFORTS)we cannot survive without our belongins which include ipods,cell phones,laptop and many others,we have the privelige of hanging around with a horde of STUPID friends who keep entertaining us with their stupidity,we get the oppurtunity of going to the topmost schools and institutes,we are taught by learned personalities.
This was all about our material possesions,friends,and family,but now just look at yourself we all are blessed with 2 eyes,2 ears, 1 nose, a tongue........a healthy heart and a good looking face...,yes it may sound a bit funny to you right now but just give it a thought and think deeply you will come to know that we are actually blessed.......just keep yourself at the place of a blind person on any other physically or mentally handicapped person you will realize how tough it is for you to survive.We throw tantrums if we donot get branded shoes but we do not realize that people do exist who donot even have feet.....
Always when difficulties come in our way,when we are supposed to face some problems,when destiny plays with us, when we donot get what we think we deserve,we blame GOD,we think its the end but actually its not the end its just a bend......GOD can never be unfair with us infact he has already blessed us with a number of things which we donot deserve..whatever happens in our lives is because HE wants that to occur in our lives and believe it or not "AAL IZZ WELL"
So why not play our role honestly and wait for the things to unfold,,may be there is a hidden surprise for us,,,may be which currently seems to be a sorrow turns out to be the biggest joy in our lives...........
SO FROM TODAY LETS LETS STOP COMPLAINTING AND TAHANK GOD FOR WHATEVER HE HAS GIVEN US........................THANK YOU GOD

IS ANYTHING AUTHENTIC ?????

We live in a world where hypocrisy and dishonesty are on its rise,where dedication, sincerity, honesty is hardly been appreciated. The only means of achieving success that is visible to the human eye is by way of deceiving the people or by disobeying the laws and disrespecting the ethics. moral values seem to be disappeared.In such a world one question that irritates me the most is "IS ANYTHING AUTHENTIC"
One can hardly develop the trust to believe in any one's or any thing's authenticity these days,people are cheated every now and then.All the commodities are been sold not because of the excellence in their quality but because of the advertisements that give us fake guarantees and assurances.The companies are fighting with one another just to prove that one of them is better that the other.I just saw the ad of rin(detergent powder)which says it bis better than tide and i could not stop laughing,i mean what is this going on??They say that if you get a better water purifier they will give you a crore,but can't they simply understand that the consumer wants healthy and purified water for his good health rather than a crore.
Every time during elections the candidates make loads of promises and YES THEY ARE FULFILLED BUT only for a limited amount of time,the people are made happy for a little while and later everything becomes the same.Nowadays what the people do not want to learn the art of making others happy or pleasing them, but what they are DESPERATE to learn is the art of fooling others,misleading others......
The children no more want to study hard in order to get good marks,they no more believe in hard work but what they believe in is buttering up the teachers and copying to secure good marks.....such is the base of today's generation.....i wonder what will be our future...
But the most surprising thing is that most of the people fall prey to such ill things,,the teachers do like such students,,people do buy commodities which give them fake guarantees...FAKENESS HAS TAKEN PRIORITY OVER GENUINENESS...Its always said that it is very easy to adopt bad things but it is very difficult to stick to your goodness despite the ever increasing hypocrisy..the girls do not believe in parents who love them,care for them their genuine care is mistaken as interference but the fake care of all those roadside romeos is considered to be love..hats off to them..??!!!
In such a situation the only possible answer that i get to my question is what BHAGVAD GEETA says " WHAT IS NOT,IS NEVER AND CAN NEVER BE,BUT WHAT IS,IS ALWAYS AND CAN NEVER BE DESTROYED" I know it is very easy to say but difficult to imply such things but the one who remains authentic in an inauthentic world possesses the power to transform the whole world..

THE SCARCITY OF GENEROSITY

In today's era all of us do get angry over one another , the problem may be either a trivial issue or a major one but what happens is that we lose our temper . We become angry and tend to , land up in much difficult issues , have we ever wondered what would have happened if we kept calm and adjusted ourselves according to the situations? the answer to this is that the problem would have been easily solved and we wasted our valuable time . But during such situations our ego comes in our way and we lose everything . I used to always be very short tempered and had landed up in very large problems because i used to believe that when i have done nothing wrong why should i adjust? why do i need to sacrifice always ? why should not i backanswer those people who talk shit about me ? if they are wrong why do i suffer?
This frame of my mind was obviously incorrect....now you would wonder why am i saying this as the one who is wrong should be punished , same used to be my state of mind.......but i was very fortunate to meet one of my friends who changed my attitude towards such situations , people completely. He made me realize that the bad will hardly become good but the good can definitely become great and if we think about such people we can never be great . No matter how pathetic and irritating is the situation you should always be helpful , kind , and generous.You should never posses the feeling of hatred or revenge for anyone if you do so things will only change from bad to worse
The world has witnessed that true people donot need any recognition , as it is said action speaks louder than words your actions should be just and the people will themselves know about yourself.You should posses the control over yourself , its your life and you have to decide your priorities and remain as you are with everyone , if we do so we can definitely tackle all our problems and make a mark on everyone

TRUST YOUR DEDICATION

We are a part of this competitive world. We live in a place where the impossible is greadually bein possible, where people dream high, live elegantly, and achieve great heights. All of us desire to like the ambanis, malyas, or set our own benchmark for success.We wish to be the most successful people, but achieving all this is not so easy,we are constantly subjected to various difficulties on our path towards progress. We are been tested for ourn skills,our talents,our intelligence. But all these tests are conducted by our seniors which include our teachers, parents, elder etc.But the most important test is carried out by the one who is SENIOR TO EVERYONE, GOD. The test that he conducts upon us is the test of our mental strength,our patience and most importantly our belief in ourselves. Many a times it so happens we believe that we have given our 200% but things donot turn out the way we had planned (i suppose this has happened with everyone) we are not able to come to know what went wrong during such situations, actually what had went wrong was our disbelief in ourselves. We are worried after facing small challenges, we lose our faith and become hopeless. We always keep on limiting our challenges but what HE does is challenging our limits. To succeed we must have tremendous perseverance, tremendous will "i will drink the ocean" says the persevering soul" at my will mountains will crumble up" have that sort of energy that sort of will,work hard. We should always give our best shot and have faith in our efforts and sincerity, then things will always work out if still there is something we should just be calm and wait for the consequences may be there is something better in our kitty, never say no naever say i cannot for you are infinite even time space are nothing compared to my nature.. such should be our attitude, We should always be willing to bear a temporary pain for permanent happiness.... if we are honest in our deeds and believe in them even if things seem to be impossible they may become possible because miracles do occur, but one thing is for sure we should believe in miracles but not depend on them.... so if we posses the necessary grit and trust happiness will definitely come along our way...

HONESTY is something winners imbibe

We live in the world of liars,this is the place where hypocracy is on its rise,where centiments seem to be lost and love seems to be disappeared.The only thing that matters to people today is money,people donot remember anyon's birthday,aniversary but what they remember exactly is his income,his financial status.But do they even realize that what ars they losing in this rat race,do they even know what is the importance of different people in their lives,are they aware of the fact that relations are so beautiful,the answer is a big NO.This situation has occured because the people are dishonest to themselves.One can escape from the world but he can never escape from one's own self,but the people of today are so busy in their affairs that they donot even know what will be the consequences of their actions.The conscience of the people is dead.The students,children lie to their parents,teachers.The teachers lie to the principal.An employee lies to his boss.the people lie to the government and the government lies to the people and all this is taking place just for the sake of winning over something or the other.But are they TRUE WINNERS,no althogh they have attained their short term objective they will not be happy,because they are nothonest to themselves,a true winner is the one who does not requires the hopeless support of dishonesty,he is the one who posseses the talent which receives the appreciation of all and brings about happiness in his life,he does not posses the greed to earn more but he posseses the urge to know more,the hunger to learn more.But such people are very few and its high time for us to decide whether we belong to the common and dishonest crowd or to the handful amount of honest people.......

Dream BIG

All of us definitely posses a particular aim in life,and we strive towards achieving it but everyone has his own area of interest.One thing which we should always aim for should be perfection in whatever we desire to achieve,though perfection in most of the cases is unattainable if we work hard towards achieving it ,we will be able to get what is called as"near to perfect"but this is only possible if we posses the necessary detrmination and grit.We should never ever stop dreaming because,"dreams give rise to hope,hope inspires efforts and efforts lead to success,so if we want to achieve success we should never ever restrict ourselves from dreaming.In our journey towards success we will definitely have to go through certain milestones,they may be undesired circumstances,unwanted comments etc .But we should face them with courage because their mouths will definitely shut up looking at your success.We should always remember that the supply of advice exceeds the demand.Certain advices may be helpful certain may be not but its all upon us that how do we imply it in our lives.Dream is not something that you see when you are asleep,but dream is something which does not lets you sleep.SO IF YOU HAVE DREAMT AND BUILT CASTLES IN THE AIR,THATS WHERE THEY SHOULD BE NOW WORK HARD AND BUILD THE BASEMENT UNDER THEM

HARDWORK ALWAYS PAYS OFF

In today's world we often use the statements what is the use if i do this,how will i be beneficial from this but we donot realize that if we work hard for achieving a particular objective and if we are honest in our deeds the fruit which we will get at the end will definitely be sweet.We,the people have become so impatient that we donot even wait for the fruit to ripen,we are eager to have it when it is rotten and then complaint our LUCK,but remember luck has the habit of favouring those who donot depend on it.In earlier days the people were more patient,they were more stable,mature and thats the reason why they led more happy and contented lives,we have developed the habits of only pointing at the drawbacks of our elders,but we donot realize that the impatient greed for achieving more and more instantly will take us nowhere.This greed then pulls us for doing wrong things,we become more greedy and then opt for unethical and decisive measures which may seem good at their initial stages but atlast they bring about failure.We should never aim for any sort of short term objectives but our objectives should be long term which bring about self-contentment and happiness which can only come through HARDWORK.

jus don giv a damn to ppl arguing wid u

Often in any arguement we tend to discuss alot wid d person arguing but we donot realize dat its of no use.We always tend to apply the tit for tat behaviour over there but that should not be our attitude.When we are arguing with the person we r proving ourselves to b ryt but actually we donot realize that we r proving ourselves to b fools because that attitude of ours is always expected.In a way we r giving dat person the right of hurting us. We r giving him dat much importance,vich should not b the case.Everytime ven v r in a heated arguement v should jus b silent cos the jus does not exist for us.HE IS A MERE ENTITY,who vl stop BARKING today or tomorrrow